I mourn the loss of MY perfect birth.

There are people out there that actually say this. "I am in mourning over the loss of my perfect birth."

They are absolutely beside themselves because their baby was "ripped" from their womb via C-section, or that they were "forced" into taking one drug or another from the "evil" doctors and nurses.

There are people who believe that babies that come into this world by C-section are not really born at all, and that they are "missing something". Yes, I have actually heard (and read) mothers saying this.

This is their reason for absolutely needing a home birth. Some, desire totally unassisted births at home, meaning NO help or experienced person helping at all. They are willing to put their unborn baby at risk JUST to preserve their "perfect birth experience".

It is funny when these mothers lament over the death of their treasured birth experiences you hardly ever hear the word "baby" or "child" mentioned. You will hear the word "me", "I", and "my" dozens of times.

When you have a baby isn't the most important person your child? Who the hell cares what you have to go through to get him or her here? As long as they are safe and healthy, who cares what color the walls are or whether it was done in a freaking tub or not? Wouldn't staring into your child's eyes for the first time erase all the bad feelings and memories of anything that happened before? Isn't it ALL worth it?

I would rather go through a medicated, induced, emergency C-section that results in a healthy, ALIVE baby than have a beautiful, quiet, serene, natural home birth in a tub with music playing that results in a DEAD baby. And too many times that is exactly how those births turn out, with DEAD babies.

Oh, and those that will tell you that "statistically" more babies die in hospitals than at home, forget that even deaths that are a direct result of a home birth, but the infant is brought to the hospital via ambulance or the parents at the last minute to try and save them, have to be recorded as a hospital death. Also, not all home deaths are recorded at all.


As a mother I KNOW all the problems that can happen during delivery and to a baby right after birth. Minutes are crucial. Those who say, "Well I am moments away from the nearest hospital if anything goes wrong!" Do you realize that in a matter of minutes or even seconds, you can lose your child to something that would have been caught right away at a hospital? Are you willing to live with yourself if your baby does not make it to the hospital in time? Is it worth it?


And to those who say, "Women have been giving birth since the beginning of time, it is natural"......Well babies have DIED since the beginning of time, and the only reason that infant mortality rate is so low is because of all of our MEDICAL advances. So have your "natural" birth experience, but be ready to deal with the "natural" consequences.

Being a mother isn't about YOU.